Thursday, February 5, 2009
Hurt
As we were enjoying dinner tonight Charlotte said to me, "I don't like you very much. I like daddy." OUCH!!! I didn't even think I heard her correctly, so I asked her to repeat herself. And unfortunately my ears were right the first time. Then, I didn't even know how to respond to her. She's 2, not 12 or 16, so I was not expecting that at all, especially since I think I'm a pretty likable person/mom. So I explained how she hurt my feelings and that I love her very much. Then Greg asked me how my day was and I started crying! (Still hurt by Charlotte's comment, especially since I thought we had a likable day together-playing with playdough, cleaning together, reading.) Even writing this I'm getting all teary eyed, and I don't even know why. Surely Charlotte does really like me. Now I'm gonna go and call my mom and apologize for all the times I told her I didn't like her (which I'm pretty sure happened in my teens and later.)
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3 comments:
She's asserting her independence. Let her. Good that you told her it hurt your feelings. Also tell her that she is allowed to feel the ways she does.
Hang in there Nick. I wouldn't take it personally! It's happened to me too. And yes, it stinks.
Dan's daughter Malia told me the first time I met her that she didnt like me. I told her she didnt have to like me. (said it nice and loving). Later that day when I was leaving she wanted to go home with me. Liked that you told her your feelings of being hurt and loving her. The 2's ever changing moods.
One of my children(I won't mention any names) told me that they hated me. I said thats ok,you are allowed to feel that way, but I love you no matter what. It worked for me.
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